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This Pissed Me Off!!

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“With the end of 2022 now in sight, have you made the progress you planned on this year, Donald?

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This is an excerpt from an email that I received from Tony Robbins. I didn’t get it directly from Tony, but I’m on his list lol!

This email pissed me off with myself.

The email reminded me that I didn’t do what I said that I would do at the beginning of 2022. It reminded me that I wasted another year living in limbo, because I didn’t get into my life like I was supposed to.

But this email gave me a special gift. It gave me the right kind of motivation that gets stuff done. It gave me ‘Discomfort ‘. This type of discomfort creates real action because you realize that you have been living a lie and have become somewhat comfortable at living uncomfortable. I’m not talking about that uncomfortable that’s needed for growth. I’m speaking about the uncomfort of working a dead end job, or being overweight, or living in a house that doesn’t represent who you really are. I’m talking about being uncomfortable and almost accepting it as life. That limbo place where you know better. You also know the habits that you’re supposed to be implementing to get where you’re supposed to go. But you keep falling off and before you know it a year has passed by, and you realize that you let yourself down again.

This email helped me. Because I made a promise to myself that next year I would resonate with the part of the email that says, ” If your crushing your goals and setting new ones- congratulations!”

That will be my testimony next year. I believe that because I’m actually doing something about becoming that man right now!!!

“Never leave the site of a goal without first taking some form of positive action towards its attainment. Right now, take a moment to define the first steps you must take to achieve some goal. What can you do today to move forward?” – Tony Robbins

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HOW INSECURITY CREATES PROCRASTINATION

People who are insecure about themselves love to seek flaws in others.

This quote hits me hard right in the chest. In a weird way the quote is like what Jesus said about judgmental people. “Do not judge and criticize and condemn [others unfairly with an attitude of self-righteous superiority as though assuming the office of a judge], so that you will not be judged [unfairly]. Matt 7:1 Amplified Version

This is so true. I found that when I’m out here running my mouth talking about other people negatively ( judging, overly criticizing, minding their business and not my own) I’m actually taking attention off of myself. This in turn takes away my focus and energy. I’m focused on their life, and that takes energy that I should be using to better my own situation.

This leaves mentally drained whether I realize it or not. So I never really go as hard as I can and should at my own goals. I believe this is why the church is not as powerful as it could be. There are too many nosey and judgemental people not seeing themselves for who they really are.

Back to me and you.

Have you noticed that when you’re really focused on achieving something you don’t have time to focus on what somebody else is doing or not doing? In fact you get aggravated when folk come around distracting you with gossip and what not.

It hurts but it’s a good hurt to know that all of this time I was actually being insecure in my own gifting and abilities. I would focus on the negatives in someone else’s life so that I could blind myself to my own mess.

I don’t know about you, but I can’t let my insecurities block me from my purpose any longer. Wasting my energy on other folks business while I procrastinate on taking massive action in my life is spiritually unacceptable. Our energy really does go where our attention goes, and I want mine to go my best life.

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Why Deadlines Are So Powerful

“You will struggle to focus until you give yourself a clear deadline.”

Please read that quote again. Family that is one of the biggest mind hacks to focus.

A clear and definite deadline. Having to accomplish something by a particular time really makes us time conscious. Also, it gives us a shocking revelation about who we are as individuals.

Let’s dig into this

Deadlines Make Us Time Conscious

We can really waste some time as humans. You could say that we don’t value time. While that’s true, I believe that it’s equally true that we don’t accurately measure time. We don’t feel the real weight of time. That’s why we find ourselves saying often that our time has gotten away from us.

“Having a deadline makes us realize that our time is finite” – Unknown

I believe that our innate desire to live somewhat on autopilot is the main reason that we find it so easy to lose focus. Our reticular activating system (ras) for short serves to help us focus on what’s important and also, it keeps us from being inundated with too many sensory details. Details such as feeling our heart beats or knowing everything that’s going on inside of us and around us. Knowing and feeling all of that data would drive us insane. We would literally go crazy from information overload.

We love to operate on autopilot because our brains are actually kind of lazy. It takes energy to think that’s why most of us remember our way through life. Having a deadline literally creates an ever present sense of urgency that we need to get our goals accomplished. Depending on the goal and how conscious aka  (uncomfortable) we have to become to achieve it, is often the determining factor to us actually accomplishing our goals.

Giving ourselves a clear and definite deadline shocks us and causes us to reassess how we are actually spending our time. We begin to see time as the precious currency that it is. If we wisely invest in non time wasting activities we will be blessed with a hefty return on our investment.

Deadlines Push Us To Create Structure

Have you ever felt like you wanted to do something, but immediately you feel overwhelmed because you don’t know where to start? For instance, you want to lose 50lbs like me. You want to drop this weight quickly. The thought of being uncomfortable in your clothes has finally gotten to you and you just can’t take it anymore. So you enter a weight loss challenge where you pay to participate, and the top prize is 1000 dollars. You really want to win that thousand dollars, but even more you want to win at being yourself. You know deep down that if you give this thing your all something different is going to alive inside of you. That alive feeling is more important than money.

What do you do? You’re overweight and chances are you’re at an age where you just don’t operate the same if you know what I mean.

Do you start with exercising, diet, mindset, new gym, etc? What type of program should you be using to train? How much cardio, what kind of cardio, what’s the best time for cardio, do you do your cardio fasted or not fasted? The questions can go on and on, and it’s real easy to end up doing a bunch of nothing because your not structured.

You know that in order for you to win this thing, you’regoing to need to drop some real weight. So you choose the goal to lose 30 lbs. The challenge is 4 weeks long, so that gives you 4 weeks to make this thing happen. Hey, that sounds like that’s real hard to do, you may say. Exactly, that’s the point.  Yes, it’s hard, but it’s definitely doable. Now you have to get really dialed in so that you can create a structure that will support this intense goal of yours.

You want to feel proud of yourself. You want the bragging rights to tell your peeps that you crushed this challenge. Let’s not forget that you want to win that thousand dollars too.

This is all that matters now. You’re focused and you don’t have much time. You are on the internet searching for the best routines. You are already going to the gym figuring out what works for you. You are trying out different workouts and you’re noticing what you can handle. Voila you got a plan. It may not be perfect, but perfection doesn’t really exist anyway. You know from your research that you need to get plenty of cardio in and be in a caloric deficit. You also, have to be at work by 8 in the morning. You can’t watch as much TV anymore because you have to meal prep and get in bed earlier, to wake up an hour or 2 earlier to get to the gym before work. Are you seeing how the urgency of the deadline is creating the new structure of your life?

And lastly, but not least, learn to create deadlines even if you don’t necessarily have them. When we’re able to create our own sense of urgency without being provoked by external sources we’re tapping into our divine super powers. I dare say we become dangerous people when we operate like that.


Remember our goals need to be bound to time. If we don’t attach a deadline to our goals we inevitably invite uninvited guest like procrastination, fear, laziness, and distraction to our lives. Those guest never let us reach our goals, that’s why we have to arm ourselves with deadlines. Deadlines fight off procrastination, fear, laziness, and distraction with purpose and urgency.

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6 Reasons Why You’re Not Losing Weight Even Though You’re Exercising

Although diet and exercise have been touted as the holy grail when it comes to losing stubborn weight. In reality we know that this is not altogether the truth. Yes, diet and exercise play a major role in weight loss and management. Those two cousins are not the only things that play a major role in us reaching our weight loss goals.

In this brief article I’m going to mention a few other reasons why diet and exercise aren’t the only things we need to concern ourselves with when it comes to our weight.

  1. You are not getting enough sleep

There is definitely a relationship that exists between the quantity and quality of the sleep that we get. When we lack sleep, our bodies try to compensate by sending us signals to eat more. The reason for this is because, basically we losing precious energy, and the body has to make up for that loss somehow.

The caveat to this is this, we don’t generally reach for some grilled vegetables or baked chicken. No, instead we reach for potato chips, soda, and sugary foods that we know were not supposed to eat. Hey, here’s a bit of good news. You don’t have to beat yourself up to much about this. Our bodies are actually trying to get the fastest form of energy that it feels it can get. High glycemic foods, sugars, and salts meet that description. On top of that, we are chemically hooked on our junk food selections. I know this is a dirty game.

2. You are Stressed Out

When we have too much pressure, and we all can feel that way sometimes. Our bodies release excess stress hormones like cortisol. Cortisol can cause the body to actually resist insulin. This in turn, raises our blood sugar levels and causes the body to increase its fat storage. So instead of burning off fat, our bodies are holding on to it, because it thinks it needs it to survive. Believe it or not we are still pretty much cave men physiologically. We are cave men that have too much food to eat (LOL)

Psychologically, stress eating is a real thing. Too much stress can trigger a sudden drop in our blood sugar and that can stimulate our appetites.

3 You Are Getting Older

As we age our metabolisms tend to slow down and the body is less able to produce muscle. Muscle burns fat. So we need muscle in our weight loss pursuits.

4 You Are Dehydrated

Water helps to regulate our metabolism and digestion. Dehydration actually increases our appetite. The body is trying to get it’s precious fluids from somewhere. A lot of times our bodies are telling us that it needs more water. Unconsciously, we reach for food instead of water. Of course this can cause weight gain.

5. Your Medication

Many medications are known to have weight gain as a side effect. If not weight gain directly, then indirectly, by increasing stress which can lead to “stress eating”. Medications like beta-blockers (for hypertension and high blood pressure), antidepressants, anticonvulsants (seizures), antipsychotics, diabetes medicines (e.g. insulin), and steroids. I know first hand how steroids can cause major weight gain.

6. Your Underlying Medical Conditions

Conditions like diabetes, fluid retention, polycystic ovary syndrome (PCOS), underactive thyroid, and other issues that can effect the bodies endocrine system.

I wrote all of this to say that there are more reasons than willpower, discipline, diet, and exercise that effect our ability to lose weight. My hope is that we become more loving with ourselves and others on their journeys. I believe that real love brings about healing. This healing is not something that is airy fairy, but this is something that is real. I don’t know about you, but I believe in miracles. I believe in hard work, I teach it, I live it. But there are some things in life, that need a supernatural touch on them if you will.

Let’s work hard, train hard, eat smart, but above all else, Love Harder. Until next time God Bless

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